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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Monday, January 30, 2006

Adonis Rocks!

As promised, here are some pictures from the Krewe of Adonis ball in Morgan City. Their theme is Disco this year(eww). Oh well, guess they were drunk when planning the theme, lol. It really wasn't too bad. They made it fun.

Me waiting for my guests to arrive. I was stressing when I couldn't get in touch with any of my guests Saturday afternoon. They all made it on time though.

L is a duke in the royal court of Adonis. This is him parading out with his maid (that is a wig he is wearing) I was lmao we he paraded out. Actually, his was the most "normal" costume of all the dukes.

L and me chilling out. No. We weren't drinking. Honest.

Me with all the girls. Jeanne, I saw you smoking! and you weren't plastered yet! L & K, nice men you have now, hang on to them a while!

My cool college roomate and her husband. He is a soldier in our awesome US army! His deployment for January got temporarily cancelled and he was able to come party with us! Yay!

But I wanna wear the hat. . . So did everyone else, but I couldn't post pics of everyone wearing the hat!

Oh, almost forgot the most important part. The food and booze served at our awesome table:

chicken wings
deviled eggs
lots of other junk food.

rum runner mixtures
Jello shots :)
jack daniels
hard lemonade
We did have water and cokes too.

Damn! Forget to post one of the queen. I'll try and dig it up tonight.

I hope you enjoyed them. We know how to throw a party in South Louisiana huh?

Mardi Gras Mambo!

The ball was awesome! I'll save that for another post with pictures soon. They are still in my digital camera, because I have not stopped this weekend. If L is in a good mood, I'll talk him into letting me post pics of him in his duke costume.

Anyway, yesterday was my first visit to New Orleans(except the airport), since Hurricane Katrina. We had some guests from California, so we took them to the lower 9th ward and Plaquemines Parish. It's pretty cleaned up now but you can see a bit of damage. This tall buildings had some windows blown out.

Anyway, while walking around the French Quarter (which is still nearly deserted), we saw some interesting Katrina T-shirts(wish I had more cash with me last night). Hear is some I remember:

"Katrina gave me a blow job I will never forget"

"I stayed in New Orleans during Katrina and all I got was a T-shirt, a new cadillac and a plasma TV"

"Willy Naigan and the Chocalate City(with mayor Nagin's face on Willy Wonka's body."

"The Krewe of Disaster", with pictures of our dear governor and the New Orleans mayor! (L bought this one).

Also there were many shirts mocking FEMA!

L mentioned wanting to move last night. Back to the city I grew up in. Man, I hope he's serious. I wanna get the hell away from the bayou (we can always visit).

I hope to get pics posted soon of the ball.

Thursday, January 26, 2006

On the Road Again

Well I made an appointment with a new RE. Dr. New Orleans.

Dr. Houston suggested having them do an exam as a check up after endometriosis treatment. I told Dr. New Orleans receptionist that I needed an exam, but asked, "you're coming for infertility though, right?" I said yes, I am coming for a consult, but I also need a follow-up exam after endometriosis treatment, which is medical and covered. She said the visit was $200 and would depend on how the doctor coded it....witch!

I guess I'll just pray for the best.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

And the answer is. . .

Sloppy teenager!!

I questioned her about the dishes and she look confused, then embarrassed, then explained what happened.

She was eating cereal while getting ready and must have set the bowl down in the closet (don't know why), then went to get her clothes out the dryer. She must have just tossed her clothes into the closet on top of the bowl. She said she forgot about it.

I reminded her again that dirty dishes belong in the sink or dishwater and dirty towels in the laundry room.

My college roomate and her husband are coming in this weekend for the ball. I can't wait to visit with her again!

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Strange Custom? or Sloppy Teenager?

L was looking for the towels that went in So Young's bathroom to clean them and put them out for the company we're having for the ball this weekend.

He found the towels in the bottom of her closet. Nothing strange yet right.

Well, when he picks up the towels you will NEVER guess what he finds?


I was messy when I was younger, and I may not have washed dishes after myself, but I didn't hide them in my closet.

Ok, I'm being serious that an Asian custom, a sloppy teenager, or should I be concerned about an eating disorder?

She eats well, but I received an email from her father last week worried about how much she is eating. Do you think she's trying to hide it from her father?

L was p*ssed. We are going to have a talk with her tonight. Dishes go in the dishwasher or washed and put in the cabinets. We won't tell your dad what you eat. Please put dirty clothes in the laundry room or a basket in the bottom of your closet.

Any suggestions?

Monday, January 23, 2006

A Life


I haven't posted in a few days. You think I'm getting a life?

Nope. Just been busy. Poor So Young. We keep her so busy. At least she won't get bored.

We booked a nice vacation to Florida, and will book a long weekend trip to New York soon. It's something to look forward to.

It will be a few weeks before we start classes for the state. I'm still trying to convince L to get us on the list for newborn domestic adoption, but he still seems to think I will get pregnant. I just want to have a back-up plan, because I've waited long enough already.

He wants to try 3 mores IUI's. I don't know if I have it in me though. We'll see what happens.

Thursday, January 19, 2006

Laying Down the Rules

Soyoungs, agency, we'll call them Agency P.

Agency P says we have to cut So Young's emails down to once a week because her father is getting too involved. How do I explain that to her and control her from emailing too often?

I don't him checking on her, but now he seems concerned about what she's eating and she is very skinny. A little pizza and hamburgers won't hurt her. Maybe agency P is right and he needs to let go. They should (and probably did) have explained this to her when she got signed up.

It's partly my fault. I chose to break this rule because I wanted her to feel more secure by having access to her family.

Oh, one cool thing. Last night I got to sign a paper of rules from her teacher on the line that says "parent signiture." Wow, I'm really getting desperate for motherhood if that gives me a thrill.

I need to get pregnant already!

Monday, January 16, 2006

Go Back to Bed, Wake Up and Try Again

It's been one of those days.

I arrive at the office with invoices to bill in my box. Fine. No problem.

They were from LAST MONTH. So that means, I have to re-do my monthly statements again from scratch. JOY!!

Later, my boss found a couple errors to fix and asked why I didn't look them over. Well, I'm doing them over again anyway....

The fact that I've been given everyone else's work to do and was lacking time was no excuse, I'm superwoman right?? That's fine, just get rid of the extra people and give me their pay. Yeah right! Ok, it's not that bad, I guess. Ok, now I'm being ugly.

L was supposed to take So Young to the office to meet everyone. I had to call and tell him not to, because I barely had time to breathe, and surely not enough to shoot the shit with everyone while I introduce her. No big deal I guess, she's gonna be here for a year.

I must give you a warning. The classes for state foster/adoption start mid-February. Prepare to hear some serious bitching about the stupid rules I will have to follow. L already informed me of one. It appears that you cannot have a home business.

Why the f*ck not?? Are self-employed people not good parents? Don't you get to see your children more if you work from home? I have a side business, it's small, but the extra money comes in handy for my non-covered medical expenses.

If I get pregnant on my own, I'm a good enough parent regardless of whether or not I have a home business. If I foster/adopt from the state, I'm a BAD parent if I work from home.

I'm sure there will be plenty more nonsense rules coming soon. Stay tuned!

Saturday, January 14, 2006

Taking a Leap of Faith

We are getting signed up to get certified to foster/adopt through the state.

I told L I still want to have at least one infant. I don't care if it sounds selfish.

Worst case, I adopt one older kid and one infant.

I'm scared and excited.

We start classes mid February.

Wish us luck. We will still be trying to get pg of course!

Friday, January 13, 2006

Mardi Gras Ball

L is in a Mardi Gras crew in this little shit town we live in, but it's a pretty big thing. They have this awesome ball (so I've heard) every year. One of his guests couldn't make it, so I got to extend another invitation to a couple I wanted to come.

I immediately think of my cousin that is my sis's age. I call my Nanny, her mom, and shoot the shit a little then ask for her phone number so I could invite her. The conversation ends with, "I thought you were calling to tell me you were pg" I calmly explained that I had some endometriosis, so we were having some problems. She said it would work out and if not, plenty babies needed homes(adoption). She then asked if I had seen the pics of my other cousin's new baby.

I told her I would look at them in a couple of weeks. I can't really be mad at this assvice because it was so sincere, I mean, she was really sincere about it, just didn't understand that adoption and baby pics are not good topics.

My cousin is coming to the ball though.

So Young's father and the korean banks figured out the money wiring instructions, so I think everything should start going more smoothly. I enjoy having her here so much.

Anyway, the ball is in 2 weeks. I have a dress, but no shoes and jewelry. Oh, of course, the dress has to be hemmed and I need to find a somewhat comfortable strappless bra. Any suggestions?

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Bath Day

No, not for me.

For Abbey

Don't worry. I'll quit posting pics soon and resume bitching about infertility. My journey is not over.

I called Dr. New Orleans yesterday. They told me to call back at the end of the month. I hope I won't get the run-around again next time I try to get an appointment.

Oh well.

Neat Freak

Ok, I'm gonna bore you a little more with my new toy.

L is a SERIOUS neat freak (though I love him to death.) Observe:

Front Bedroom (wouldn't this be perfect for a little girl)

Living Room

So Young's Room

Can you believe that L hasn't had a stroke!!

I only pick on him because I love him.


Take a quick peak at the one of me. If L sees it, I will probably have to take it off because it has his hands in it.

Tuesday, January 10, 2006

Korean Gifts

I'm finally getting around to playing with my first digital camera I got for Christmas.

Ok, I'm behind in the technology world and I just got one for Christmas, so I'll share a few pics with you.

Here is a set of Korean wedding dolls given to me by So Young. Aren't they beautiful!

Here is a beautiful jewelry box she also gave me.

And good old Buddy, lazing around as usual

Snuggle Time

Yesterday was a LONG day! Left the house before 7am and got home after 9pm.

We had a meeting with the lifeteen for church last night. On my way back from the gym, I received a call for the youth pastor saying the meeting was moved to his house, with his 3-yr old boy (and pg wife)! Don't get me wrong, they are very nice, and I'm glad they don't have to suffer the way I am, but it's still hard (although I went, hoping to somehow "catch" the pregnancy disease).

Later in the meeting, it was his son's bedtime and he wanted his daddy to snuggle with him before bedtime. I'm fighting tears at this time, but keep my cool. It got worse. This apparently started at least a 20 minute conversation about everyone's kids and snuggle time and how some of their kids don't let them snuggle. Anyway, you get the idea.

I thought I was gonna burst into tears right there! I have not shared our issues with them. I know they would probably be sympathetic, but they would not understand. I almost had to walk out of the meeting, but I didn't want to make a scene. I don't need them to waste there time saying "poor Lisa." That would be selfish, because we're there for the kids, not me. I may eventually share later if we have a social just for us.

Please pray for me. This ministry is becoming very difficult and breaking my heart a lot. I must push on. For the kids. I'm still young, but I think I've experienced some things they can learn from. Pray for strength for me to stick with it, because I'm real close to quitting.

Monday, January 09, 2006

Bank Headaches

We ran into another snag with our student.

Wiring money.

The bank we use for her has another bank that the wires go to and then gets credited to her bank and account.

How do you explain this to a Korean father who knows limited English, because I know she needs money for school? (not that we won't help her though.

Other than all the "administrative" snags (registering in school, insurance wire transfers), the experience has been great so far. Do we have to send her back home in a year? She's 15, so I'm sure she will piss us off sooner or later, probably sooner.

I think she has been flirting with a senior. She said she was teaching him Korean, and she taught him, "I love you" and "you're beautiful." It's adorable and frightening at the same time.

L had a talk with the boy already. L was very polite about it but the conversation went like this:

"I don't mind you dating her, but I have a responsibility to her parents and I don't want to send her home with a package, so you just better keep you d*ck in your pants!"

The guy seemed cool with it and some friends in church say he's a good kid. L said the two of them were "cool" after the conversation.

Imagine the trauma our future daughter may have to go through when she starts dating! And L only knew her a couple days, lol!

Thursday, January 05, 2006

Things That Did Not Suck(and did suck) in 2005

I'm stealing this idea from Lori. I will even start with the positive first.

Things that did not Suck:

1. I discovered blogging and a way to release my feelings.

2. I got advice from some wonderful women in the google group alt.infertility.primary.

3. Dr. Houston hopefully fixed my end of our infertility problems.

4. Jack and Jill. While I don't have kids, it's nice to have a couple that you can spoil and send home.

5. New Job. I finally got an accounting job and may get signed off on my CPA.

6. Abbey. I love my new puppy.

And, one thing in 2006 that DID NOT SUCK

USC got their ASS kicked in the national championship!! That's what they get for trying to "share" LSU's championship win a couple years ago.

Things that DID SUCK

1. One and a half years, no baby yet, not even pregnant.

2. Colonoscopy. Have fun sis, you're due in a couple years.

3. Hurricane Katrina and Rita. Thanks for giving the oil companies another excuse to gouge us at the pump.

4. My failed IUI because of Dr. Quacks late timing of insemination.

5. Being a security guard. (enough said).

6. Lupron, boy, it's HOT in here.

7. LSU losing the national championship because they had to be "politically correct" in selecting the quarterback for the game, rather than selecting the best player.

Things I will try to accomplish:

1. Get pregnant.

2. Find a new house.

3. Eat better (not likely)

4. Exercise more.

5. Learn how to say F-ck You in Korean the next time someone tells me I can have one of their kids.(hey, all you trolls out there! I guess I'm being bitter again.)

I hope everyone's dreams come true and we can all blog about morning sickness and waddling this year!

6. Get signed off so I can get my CPA certificate.

Wednesday, January 04, 2006

Red Tape

The Rita family has moved out. They are gradually getting all their stuff out of our house. I am relieved. Now I can get adjusted to having So Young here.

We picked her up at the airport on Sunday and I think she had serious jet lag. She looked confused and tired. After getting turned around in New Orleans road construction, we made it home at about 3pm. She unpacked and slept til 6pm when I woke her up to call her parents. She brought gifts for me. As soon as I get time I will take pictures and post them. We Americanized her quickly with pizza for supper that night. She went to bed at 9 and asked when she needed to wake up and I told her to sleep in.

The next morning I woke her at 11 (I know, I'm creul), because we had to get school uniforms and nothing stays open long in this rinky dink town. L told her we were taking her to eat Chinese and her face just lit up!

We went through hell trying to get the poor girl registered in school! I took her yesterday morning, and after waiting an hour, I was informed that there was only one, that's right, ONE person in the ENTIRE parish, that could register a student in school and he was not there.

L brought her back today, waited an hour and a half. Raised a little hell in front of the state education department head about how unorganized this was. Ten minutes later the guy shows up. All that waiting and it only took a couple minutes to get her registered!

I'm not even gonna get into how much trouble it was to get a bank account with her name on it! At least the bank was helpful and when I left I got something accomplished. Last night I had to teach a 15 year old how to balance a checkbook (although she is only allowed an ATM card).

She's having a little trouble with her English. We understand each other, but there's still a bit of confusion sometimes. Sometimes it's hard to determine if she understands something. I'm sure she will learn quickly since she will have to speak it to survive.

Ok, I confess, I called the guidance counselor before she started school (who also volunteers with me at church) and told him I was concerned and to help her find her way around. L's friend's daughter, B, arranged for So Young to get to and from school without taking the bus (what an angel!!) I'm a worried parent already, and I don't get to keep her.

I was making hamburgers yesterday and she came in the kitchen and said she wanted to help. I felt bad because I was almost finished, so I let her "set" the table with paper plates (I'm gonna have to show her we have real dishes) and bring the food to the table. Having a family dinner is nice, I even got L to stop cleaning for 10 minutes to eat dinner with us. Tonight will be fast food with L, because I have a meeting with life teen for church.

Soon, we will get her a cell phone (prepaid, of course), even though the program doesn't allow it. I want to be able to get in touch with her.

We're making an American girl out of her now!

Monday, January 02, 2006

She Is Here

Got my exchange student and a nasty cold. All is going ok so. I will update more later.