Why I've Been Away

For lack of time and creativity, my new arrivals are:

G - 3 yr old boy
J - 1 yr old boy

We had the joyous 1st family visit since the boys have been here. G's already horrible behavior was multiplied by 10 Tues night as I experienced a 2 hour tantrum including the kicking, screaming, and trying to hit his head on anything in sight. Just now had to stop typing to go put him back in time out. I fear he has an attachment disorder as nothing phases him or makes him listen. He was also calling us mommy and daddy an hour after meeting us. G is still playing rather rough with Smiley, so I still have concerns with this.

J is a little better but screams a lot and throws himself around when he doesn't get his way. I think he was very spoiled in his other home. He is lovable most of the time and gets along well with Smiley. He is constantly wanting to eat, but I'm sure that's just his age.

K has been a tremendous help with the little ones, but we are a bit overwhelmed. What I'm working on now, is letting G learn he doesn't get everything he wants. Yes, I am having a power struggle with a 3 year old and I believe I'm winning, which is why there is much screaming and tantrums from G.

At this point, caseworker is considering separating them and may let us just keep J. G has caused EVERY placement to fail and his behaviors are beginning to rub off on J. I don't normally like to see siblings separated, but I think this may be the only way for the 3 of them to get adopted. Older sister is in another home and is thriving now.

I'm not sure what will happen next, but right now I'm fighting for control and peace in my house. Please pray for my little ones.