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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Evil People

There are some very evil people in this world. In this terrible time of grief for us, we are currently still having to answer for why we would take in such a medically needy child.

Why the hell does it matter to you?? Are you staying up all night caring for you? Did your internal clock wake up automatically every 3 hours to wake up and tube feed this baby so did wouldn't dehydrate? Did you have to sit there for an hour or longer sometimes waiting for her to stop coughing or crying long enough for the formula to drain down her feeding tube into her stomach?

I didn't think so, so why is everyone bugging me about it? Why are they harrassing the kind people at our daycare center for taking in my little angel? Do they not brought my daughter back long enough to be baptized and she nows rests in heaven?

Our daycare director received so many evil complaints and requests for money back on the day they closed to attend our little girl's funeral. Do they not realized how BLESSED they are that they still have their children with them?

To help them out, we now have to write a letter to the newspaper thanking them and saying how great of a job they did taking care of my Princess. I would do anything to repay them for their generousity, but I just did not have the energy to write again defending ourselves. Thank God Robin came through for me again and wrote it. Now I just have a couple things to add and it can be published. I was posting last night requesting help from everyone to write it, but then Robin called and said she would do it, so I deleted the post.

Please pray for these people. The last thing we need to deal with now is people bashing us for loving and caring for our little angel.

16 Comments:

  • At 12:12 PM, Blogger JUST A MOM said…

    It is theses people who what perfect,,white,,blonde,,blue eyed babies. NOTHING else will do for them. They are so ignorant that they cannot see that some people have the courage to care for someone other then them selves.

    Pitty these people they will never know the blessing you have had. hang in there. Hold your heads high and know they will never have the hearts you do. Feel sorry for them.

     
  • At 12:32 PM, Blogger Heather said…

    I always think "I've hear it all now. I can't be shocked anymore." Then I hear something like this and it just blows my fucking mind. How can people have so little empathy?

    I am so sorry you are having to go through this on top of everything else.

    Just a Mom said it well...they will never know the blessing.

     
  • At 12:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi, I picked up your site from Asher's site, and have been praying for you and your family. I just cannot commend you enough for taking in a precious little one who needed lots of love and help. Who are they to knock you down, they need prayers too.

     
  • At 12:55 PM, Blogger Tamara said…

    I so agree with the others here - unbelievable. Just when you think you saw the worst in people with comments related to infertility - this kicks it beyond anything I've ever seen. I would never have guessed. I would have been at the funeral. I would have commended the daycare for being open to children with special needs. I would have praised their efforts, and their hearts. I am appaled at anyone who would say otherwise - shame on them. They will get their come-uppence.

     
  • At 1:07 PM, Blogger Catherine said…

    Those people don't understand what it really is to be a parent.

     
  • At 1:52 PM, Blogger Julie said…

    People just don't think before they open their big ole mouths- they say the most ignorant stuff! I am sorry that you are victim to their stupidity. Try to ignore them and listen only to the whispers of love that you are getting from across the internet and around you! Hang in there! Prayers to you and your family! :)

     
  • At 2:00 PM, Blogger MJ said…

    Im so sorry dreammommy it sucks. I was worried they would give you grief over trying to find a new heart doctor but i didnt expect this in the least. Freaking idiots.

    Still praying!

     
  • At 2:04 PM, Blogger GLouise said…

    Unbelievable!!

     
  • At 2:28 PM, Blogger Robin said…

    I hope my letter expressed what you wanted to say or at least was a starting point.
    You have to remember people who say those kinds of things are just scared. They know that they would never have the strength, love, or ability to care for such an exceptional child. And we all know it is their "huge" loss.

     
  • At 3:35 PM, Blogger Maggie said…

    Thank God you were strong enough to accept a medically fragile child. Her life may have been brief but while she was with you her life was filled with warmth and love. Even losing her will never take that time away. If people can't understand that, then it is their loss. Love and family doesn't come with a timer on it. Love goes on.

     
  • At 5:25 PM, Blogger Sandra said…

    I have been reading your blog for a little while..always thinking that there for the grace of God go I. Being the foster and then adoptive parent for five medically needy children, some of whom have had many of the issues that you have been dealing with. Those of us that know what it's like to deal with the child welfare system while attempting to focus on the needs of our children even though they're not yet legally ours can really understand your grief and pain.

    Just know that you've got a calling. And the kids that you have helped and those that will be coming your way, are give a chance at life because of your unselfishness.

    People are crass, and uncaring, not understanding the deep and enduring love we have for the kids in our homes, all though not biological, loved sometimes even more.

    Keep up your good work. My family applauds you.

     
  • At 6:29 PM, Blogger TeamWinks said…

    Robin is an amazing woman. You've got yourself a wonderful new friend.

     
  • At 8:46 AM, Blogger FosterMommy said…

    It's all such bull-poop. Princess was a very sick baby and, tragically, couldn't make it. Neither you nor the daycare people did anything wrong.

    I'm not surprised, though. After I read she had died, my first thought was, "well, the county's going to be investigating them over this. and the daycare, too."
    To tell the truth, you're lucky she was at daycare when she stopped breathing. If she had been at home, you might have risked having Smiley placed somewhere else while they conducted an investigation.
    it's all backwards and totally wrong, but it's the way it goes.

    I'm glad that isn't happening.
    Ignore the idiots, grieve in your own time and love on your Smiley boy.

     
  • At 9:46 PM, Blogger Awesome Mom said…

    It is sad that you have to deal with all this when you are in a state of grief. It was so nice of the daycare to support you in this time and it is sad that people are being butts about it.

    I honestly think it is amazing that you are taking care of kids like Princess. I was not given a choice about it, my son was born the way he was. I would not trade him for any supposedly perfect kid and I am thinking of taking in special needs kids to foster when my own are older.

     
  • At 9:06 AM, Blogger bexx said…

    mvqeThere have been a lot of foul comments on many Caringbridge sites lately and now it looks like they've decided to pollute these sites. My belief is that these wierdos want the attention even if it's negative. So, my advice is to just ignore all their crap and delete it without any comment at all. Just drop it and forget it. We are all better behaved than that so we can get on with our lives without their evilness. (is that a word?)

     
  • At 9:06 AM, Blogger bexx said…

    mvqeThere have been a lot of foul comments on many Caringbridge sites lately and now it looks like they've decided to pollute these sites. My belief is that these wierdos want the attention even if it's negative. So, my advice is to just ignore all their crap and delete it without any comment at all. Just drop it and forget it. We are all better behaved than that so we can get on with our lives without their evilness. (is that a word?)

     

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