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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Monday, December 18, 2006

Out of Jail

Princess's mom is out of jail, so now Princess gets to have visits. I know I'm being selfish but this sucks! If you had been at the hospital watching her struggle, you may understand where I'm coming from. She did that to Princess and she gets to be an automatic mommy! Just let me be a bad foster mom and vent today and tomorrow I'll be a good foster mom and say how much she needs to go home with her mommy. This doesn't make it any more likely for her to go home, it just means we have to deal with visits when we thought we wouldn't. Mom gets to visit Princess for the first time on Wednesday. Transportation will bring her, of course!

Well, the other relatives inquiring about Princess have not returned the worker's calls...

posted by Lisa @ 9:44 AM  

14 Comments:

  • At 10:04 AM, Blogger Megamom said…

    Im sorry... it sucks when your heart is already so connected. Big hugs!

     

  • At 10:15 AM, Blogger BigP's Heather said…

    It would be so much easier without baby-momma drama...

    I'm sorry.

     

  • At 10:34 AM, Blogger No Longer In Crisis said…

    It is not right. Anyone who harms their child invitro like that should loose their rights until they have proven OTHERWISE. We have to prove to a whole slew of people we can be good parents before we can be foster parents, but all a bio has to do is post bail. I swear, I am so over being PC, or sensitive. Cookie could have just as well been in the hospital fighting for her life as Princess has had to. Popping a baby outta your tootie cat should not give you automatic rights - it just shouldn't. So sorry. And the state pays for all this too...amazing.

     

  • At 11:26 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Bio parents who harm their child shouldn't get a second chance!!!


    Praying Princess will be with YOU!

     

  • At 11:52 AM, Blogger FosterAbba said…

    It does strike me as a little bit sick that foster/adoptive parents have to go through a detailed screening process, classes, and ongoing training, while anybody who is lucky (or dumb enough) to get pregnant can have all the children they want without having any qualifications at all.

    The system is broken. Kids who shouldn't be with their parents go back, and kids who really should be with family members are bounced from foster home to foster home. It's a sick system, and the more I see, the more disgusted I become.

     

  • At 12:00 PM, Blogger Lisa said…

    Thanks Tamara,

    My thoughts exactly. I just can't say them because she's "not my daughter"

     

  • At 3:10 PM, Blogger Amanda said…

    Uggh!!! I am so sorry, Lisa. Hopefully, mom will see what she's done and make a responsible decision.

    Good luck!

     

  • At 9:41 PM, Blogger MamaKBear said…

    Sigh...it sucks, I know! :(

    Hang in there!!

    Oh...and yeah...when you actually DO get to adopt, you get to go through ALL the stuff you did to become a foster parent in the first place AGAIN. I'm so ready to be done.

     

  • At 11:16 AM, Blogger Julie said…

    I echo all these thoughts- it is so hard to be on the foster roller coaster- I am happy that you have been there to love that sweet princess and pray that you get to continue to love her like she deserves to be loved!

     

  • At 11:26 AM, Blogger chris said…

    They should throw her off a bridge. I'm sorry, did I just lose my nice liberal bearing? I'm sick of people like that.

     

  • At 1:00 PM, Blogger TeamWinks said…

    Grrr...I wish I had something sweet and pleasant to say about this situation.

     

  • At 1:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    We need an update Lisa!!! :)

     

  • At 11:09 AM, Blogger Happy Mama to Three said…

    I was just checking to see if you had posted a Princess update. I am so sorry about the court dealings with Smiley. Why oh why do judges do that? My baby brother who was a foster to adopt, lived a horrible first couple of years because he had to continue visits with the mom who abused him to the point that they had to resuscitate him at the hospital. It was such a bad situation but the judge wanted to give her "every chance." Yea what about the child? I so hope in 90 days the judge can see that is not the best place for him and will go to TPR. I would think either way that Smiley needs a better advocate.

    Prayers for all of you.

    Cindi
    (A.I.Parenting regular)

     

  • At 12:44 PM, Blogger lumbee said…

    hi i have a baby boy that we have taken care of since he was 3 months old he is 9 months old now, the mother done drugs while she was pregnant and he is suffering the consequences of her actions, she only maybe see's him one time a month if that but she wants him back and of coarse we run back and forth to court every month
    I am angry right now as you can see, but nevertheless I hope all works out for you

     

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