All Or Nothing
Court for Smiley was HORRIBLE yesterday, which is why I've been absent from writing, I was so shook up. Bio mom got up and lied and it appeared the judge believed that they weren't giving her a fair chance(but maybe he didn't). Her boyfriend got up after making a scene because he wanted to testify and bashed us. He said we busted Smiley's feeding tube!
I don' t have the energy to go into much more detail now, but he ordered another hearing in 90 days and the judge will decide whether to keep the plan at TPR or change to reunification. My worker believes he will terminate rights that day, but I'm terrified. Reunification would be a death sentence to Smiley.
Smiley's lawyer said nothing, no objections or nothing to the bashing by the boyfriend.
Please send prayers that this will all be over(in a good way) in a few months.
I don' t have the energy to go into much more detail now, but he ordered another hearing in 90 days and the judge will decide whether to keep the plan at TPR or change to reunification. My worker believes he will terminate rights that day, but I'm terrified. Reunification would be a death sentence to Smiley.
Smiley's lawyer said nothing, no objections or nothing to the bashing by the boyfriend.
Please send prayers that this will all be over(in a good way) in a few months.
posted by Lisa @ 8:53 AM
13 Comments:
At 10:02 AM,
Anonymous said…
Oh Lisa...I feel for you. SUch a scary thought...that Smiley could be returned. I cried and prayed every night for over 2 and half years that my daughter would stay with me forever for I knew her return would result in death. She is now legally mine!!!!!!! Things looked bleak many times, but I kept holding fast to the fact that if God cares for the smallest of creatures He will takes care of Smiley. He placed Smiley in your loving arms & He will take care of both of you. Prayers are going up for you!!! Keep praying Lisa!
At 12:15 PM,
Julie said…
I am so sorry- Does Smiley have a Casa worker? If not- he needs one! Do ya'll have those in LA? I pray that the judge could see through all the bs and will do what is best for Smiley. Hang in there! I know this is tough.
At 12:18 PM,
sourpatchbaby said…
I'm sorry that you had to go through that. Unfortunately for many of that kind of women, children are mostly a pay raise. The more children they have, the more money the state will give them. Also, if the child's under 5 years old; they don't have to get a j-o-b because they're "taking care" of the child. I used to be a court reporter for tpr and juvenile courts. The things you hear at trials are enough to freeze your blood and make it boil at the same time.
At 12:42 PM,
x said…
That sounds awful. You have done such a good job with smiley, I can't imagine the awful shape he would be in without your love and care. I'll keep you in my prayers.
At 12:52 PM,
TeamWinks said…
Oh Lisa. Please know you can write to me any time you need to. I'm sorry they lied. I'm sorry the biological parents don't see how good you are for Smiley, and that everything is so difficult.
At 2:27 PM,
Anonymous said…
I am so sorry that you have to go thru this. When we first met our kids it was still an "at risk" situation--we were told there was no chance a judge would send them back to birth mom, but there was always that little bit of doubt until the TPR actually took place. I will pray that the judge realizes you are the best choice for giving Smiley a good, safe and happy life.
At 5:50 AM,
Lisa said…
We have CASA workers here, but Smiley doesn't have one.
At 6:40 AM,
GLouise said…
Hi Lisa---I feel for you...Hoping and praying that Smiley will be yours soon!
Some of our friends adopted through the system too, and later said that it wouldn't have happened without their child's CASA worker...I pray that somehow, some way they could get a CASA worker for Smiley...I have no idea how to go about doing that.
I did donate to CASA this year through my employee's charitable contribution campaign, and it is so worth it, knowing how an Advocate can make a difference for these children who have no voice. :-(
On the positive side, I would think that this judge has seen and heard it all before. I hope he/she was just keeping a poker face during the boyfriend's tirade...I hope and pray that the judge didn't believe these claims at face value. They usually have pretty good BS detectors :-)
At 7:19 AM,
Julie said…
Lisa- I would call his cw and find out why he doesn't have a CASA worker. He really needs one at this point. Don't take no for an answer- Also call his gaurdian ad litem- does he have one of those? In this case- I can't believe they didn't assign him one in the first place but HE reallly needs one.
At 9:45 AM,
Anonymous said…
B4 your push for a CASA be sure to pray you get the right one. We lost a child after 6 months b/c of a bad CASA....very manipulative and trying to hget attention. Then we prayed for our next CASA and she was wonderful and we now have our little one. WhenI met the next one (and I had many of the years) I knew she was hand picked by God!
At 1:37 PM,
CJ said…
My prayers are with you. I know how difficult it can be to watch someone totally bash you on the stand and not be able to do anything about it. My heart goes out to you. I hope and pray this all works out in Smiley's best interest!
At 7:26 AM,
Lisa said…
L knows a CASA worker personally and will try to get her. We are gonna try and call Smiley's former attorney and see what we can do about the crappy one he has now, who did not speak one word for him at the hearing.
At 9:19 PM,
Nique said…
Lisa,
Man it all sounds so crazy. Praying that the judges will see through all the lies of the parents.
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