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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Sccoter Went Home...

Sniff sniff....

He's is God's hands now. He wont be the last though.

I'll post more when I feel better.

10 Comments:

  • At 9:42 AM, Blogger Happy Mama to Three said…

    I hope that Scooter flourishes with his Dad. And you loved him so much while he was there, that will last him a lifetime.

    C

     
  • At 11:18 AM, Blogger Julie said…

    I pray for you! I know this is hard!!! Hang in there- You loved him well and that is what we do. It is tough to let go. I am sad for you.

    hugs!

     
  • At 11:21 AM, Blogger MJ said…

    Im sorry! Thank you for loving him the short time you had him!

     
  • At 2:26 PM, Anonymous Fostermama2many said…

    Hugs. I know how hard this is, but we as foster moms need to always keep in mind that we are temporary. Thats what fostering is all about. As much as this hurts you, its not about you, its about Scooter, and what's best for him. Being with his dad is what's best for him right now.

     
  • At 3:02 PM, Blogger soralis said…

    Sorry to hear that Scooter had to leave. I hope he will do well in his new home.

    Take care

     
  • At 4:42 PM, Blogger Amanda said…

    That must be so hard... I hope he does well with Dad. Good job with him while you had him!!

     
  • At 8:51 PM, Blogger Isabel said…

    I hope it works out for Scooter. I hope fostermama2many is right, and this is 'best' for Scooter.

     
  • At 10:20 PM, Blogger Renee said…

    Fostermama2many said...
    "Hugs. I know how hard this is, but we as foster moms need to always keep in mind that we are temporary. Thats what fostering is all about. As much as this hurts you, its not about you, its about Scooter, and what's best for him. Being with his dad is what's best for him right now."

    Im about convinced Im feeding a troll, I just find it hard to believe any foster parent would choose to reach out and support another grieving FP with these words. gah.

    Hugs hon. btdt, be gentle with yourself.

     
  • At 11:48 PM, Anonymous fostermama2many said…

    Renee said- "Im about convinced Im feeding a troll, I just find it hard to believe any foster parent would choose to reach out and support another grieving FP with these words. gah."

    I am sorry if I sounded harsh. I did not mean to. I am not sure why she is grieving, she should be rejoicing, as this child will be with his father. This is not an adoption placement being lost, its a foster child returning to his dad. This is how its supposed to be!

    I have had children go home after 2 and 3 years of care. It hurts to say farewell. But, truth be told, its in the child's best interest. Its all part of being a foster parent. Fostering is not adopting. If Dream Mommy went into fostering with the notion that she would be adopting every child in her care, then she was poorly educated in fostering. I think she is new to fostering, and having to see this child leave, was a lot harder than she could have anticipated. From reading her blog, it does seem that she thinks every foster child will become legally free and hers. Its not like that. Her job as a foster parent is not to become their new mommy, but to act as a safe, caring place, until the child can return home. This child going to his father is a good thing. Its a positive thing, and we as foster moms should be happy, as this is the ultimate goal.

    Hugs again to Dream Mommy. Hang in there, because as a foster parent, you will welcome many children into your home and heart, but will ultimately say bye bye to most (if not all) of them.

     
  • At 4:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I would mention to fostermama2many that there is a difference between foster parenting and foster-to-adopt parenting. Most state agencies handle them quite differently. And really, why would you say harsh words to someone who is hurting, even if you do think you're right. You suck.

     

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