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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Tuesday, November 07, 2006

Family Team Conference

Regardless of the new information on Scooter's dad from his mom, his "dad" has rights simply because he was married to his mom. It doesn't matter that he'd only seen him twice in his life and never had a relationship with him or supported him before now. Dad was at the FTC via conference call. Must be nice he didn't have to miss work like L did.

So basically, if he can work the case plan, the very fact that he was married to Scooter's mom will allow him to bring Scooter home. He does have to pass the home study though, and work the case plan. They did say something about drug testing and if he was positive, they would close the case and move for TPR.

Scooter's mom didn't show for the FTC or the visit afterward. Dad is now on supervised visits since the case is starting to get "ugly." Dad is not gonna be happy when the judge orders him to work a case plan and I'm not doing unsupervised visits after that for fear of a "he said, she said" war. During the conference, they asked L if he would be willing to adopt him if the dad couldn't pass the homestudy or work the caseplan. He said yes of course. Dad got pissed and started rasing hell over the phone(not that I blame him). I wonder if I will get hate email now? Dad said he was getting a lawyer.

I really do not know the outcome of Scooter's case yet, still in limbo.

In other news, L met the group of 4 siblings they asked us to take. He offered to take the 2 yr old girl,but naturally, they want to keep them together. They were sent to a group home and if they have to split them up, they will keep us in mind for the girl.

10 Comments:

  • At 7:00 AM, Blogger Julie said…

    I am sorry to hear about the Family conf. sounds like it was tough. And about the sibling set- that is tough too- the idea of spliting them is hard but a group home sucks too. I know that was a hard thing for ya'll to decide. Seriously- you totally should quit work and stay at home with the set plus your 2! :) How much fun would that be!!! I hope you have a mini fan! Ha!

     
  • At 7:01 AM, Blogger Julie said…

    mini VAN! hahahahaha

     
  • At 7:55 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Oh, how sad for those poor kids to have to go to a group home instead of a family. It must be so hard to place a sibling group of four.

    Too bad about the FTC. Poor Scooter. He's going to find the going rough until things get all sorted out. I hope that his birth father does not get ugly, for Scooter's sake. While I don't know what his birth mom said, it did sound like bd did want to be part of Scooter's life.

     
  • At 8:02 AM, Blogger ABlessedFamily said…

    I think it's odd that they asked your husband about adoption in front of the birthdad?! Even if it was on the phone. I don't think that was a very professional way to handle it!!

    Are you guys even considering the sibling group??? Would you have enough room? Would it be a good situation for Baby N & Scooter?

     
  • At 8:22 AM, Blogger TeamWinks said…

    It certainly does sound like things are getting a bit ugly! Dad would have been better off to keep his cool in this circumstance. Keep us all updated.

     
  • At 11:01 AM, Blogger Dream Mommy said…

    Blessedfamily,

    Our home is technically full with 3, 2 kids and our exchange student, but they said they would allow us to take all 4! The problem is they can't all fit in one car! Also, what would I do with 6 kids while baby N is in surgery? or at our Disney World trip?

    I can't blame dad though. I'd be furious if they were mentioning adoption too that early. It was wrong, but that's the way they handle things. It put L in a sticky situation. When a kid comes into care, they immediately start looking at permancny. They work on reunification, but also someone who could provide the kid a permenant home if the family cannot complete the case plan.

     
  • At 11:15 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    FYI: You can always put children in respite care if you end up with anymore and have something you need to do. Not saying you should take anymore, just info for you! :)

    I think Julie is right and you should stay home and get a whole house full!!!!

     
  • At 6:13 AM, Blogger Kitkat said…

    Wow. With that many kids, even a mini-van would be too small for you!

    Sorry to hear things are looking like they could be rough for Scooter. Many prayers it all works out.

     
  • At 6:50 AM, Blogger GLouise said…

    Wow- talk about a full house!

    Sorry to hear that Scooter's case is getting ugly. Ugg. These poor kids who get "stuck." Don't you wish you could speed up time?

    On another note, when is SY going HOME? :-) It seems like she has been with ya'll FOREVER. It sounds like she wants you to adopt her, too :-)

     
  • At 11:06 AM, Blogger The Imperfect Christian said…

    These cases are so screwed up. You want what's best for the child and who knows what kind of parent dad would be or if he's in kahoots with mom.

    Keeping you in my prayers!

     

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