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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Monday, June 25, 2007


I have some news I am going to post at the Palace. Sorry I can't share this publicly, but I just don't know what to think of the news.

Bubbles will have her regularly scheduled visit tomorrow like nothing ever happened.

The system is definately broken.

In other news, Smiley's mom sent me an email. Nothing mean or threatening, just contact info and requesting to see him. I don't think I should respond until we're out of the appeal time frame. What do you think?


  • At 6:44 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    DO NOT REPLY!!!!
    If you choose to keep in contact AFTER the adoption is final...then and only then should you reply.

    Go with your head on this NOT your beautiful heart!!!!

  • At 8:21 PM, Blogger MommyNay said…

    Well I choose to maintain contact and have emailed with J's birthmom being extra careful not to rock the boat during appeal time--not to say she could win if she were to appeal- but hey im selfish I WANT the adoption FINAL I dont want to wait anymore and I dont want anything else(like an appeal) getting in our way! GL!

  • At 6:48 AM, Blogger Amanda said…

    I think I would answer politely and just stall for time until the appeal period is over.

    What if you're not answering makes her want to challenge the adoption? I would go with whatever feels right to you, unless someone at DSS has specifically forbidden you from talking with her.

  • At 7:20 AM, Blogger NDFosterMom said…

    Hi. I'm a foster parent in ND. Hubby and I are currently fostering 2 kids in a high risk pre-adoptive placement. You can check out my blog @ to learn more about me. I would love to be able to visit the Palace if you would allow it.

  • At 8:03 AM, Blogger JUST A MOM said…

    How on earth did she get yoru eamil??? taht my dear is jsut tooo much off to the palace.

  • At 8:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I check you website regularily. Could i please have the password to the palace?

  • At 8:53 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I've been checking in on your blog pretty regularly now. Could I have the password to the palace please. Thanks.


  • At 9:23 AM, Blogger LeftLeaningLady said…

    The system is DEFINITELY broken. My brother has custody of his two girls and their mother has charges pending against her for PSYCHOLOGICAL child abuse.. and they are with her for the summer.

    I would politely answer the woman's Email, but keep in mind, YOU are smiley's mom.

  • At 10:30 AM, Blogger remkitty said…

    If I were in your shoes .... I would say something polite, thank her for the contact info, but excuse yourself by saying how busy the summer is for you (or something like that). How long until you're safe? Days, weeks, months?

  • At 10:39 AM, Anonymous Stephanie said…


    I have thought of you often and have been following you for quite some time. I was referred here from Asher and Jacob's site.

    Can I have the password to the palace?


  • At 11:47 AM, Blogger Dream Mommy said…

    I gave her my email in the beginning so she'd quit bugging us for our phone number. She only emails once a month at the most and I'd send her pictures through email.

    The problem is now I'm leaning towards not keeping contact. I think I'll ignore it until the appeal time is over. I should see her tomorrow at the final visit anyway.

  • At 11:49 AM, Blogger Dream Mommy said…


    Email me. I need your email to add you.

  • At 12:02 PM, Anonymous Meramoo said…

    Could I have the pwd, too? I've been reading here for a good part of a year now. Merimoooo at yahoo Dot com

  • At 2:44 PM, Blogger happyadoptingmom said…

    We were told by the social worker we could not have contact until after finalization. So we just passed that on to the birth-mom and then made our own decision after that. It was nice to pass the blame onto the CW.

  • At 3:29 PM, Blogger Mom said…

    I love checking in on your family. Could I have the password to the Palace?

  • At 3:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I visit your site regularly and would love to visit the palace. Can I have the password? I was referred from Asher and Jacob's site.

  • At 8:00 PM, Blogger Katherine said…

    A polite stall seems like a good idea, unless its going to be months before the appeal time is over.

    Can I have the password to the palace? I've been lurking for quite a while and following your story with interest.

  • At 8:55 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I love checking in on your family. Could I have the password to the Palace?


  • At 6:08 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi there
    I have been reading your blog since before you adopted your son, and your strength never ceases to amaze me. When your child died, i grieved with you and your family. I have dealt with ifertility and always knew I would need ivf, today I fould out that is no longer an option since my fsh is 19.1 (Dont let that scare you as I am old, 40yrs). Any way your blog gives me hope and I was hoping you would allow me into the palace.


  • At 11:47 AM, Blogger DrSpouse said…

    In the UK contact is arranged by the agency/local authority, and is of a fixed form, usually determined by the court. It can take the form of, I think:
    Direct contact with birth parents (usually yearly/quarterly)
    Direct contact with birth family but not birth parents
    Indirect contact. This never means that they would know your contact details - only that they would send letters to a "letterbox" at the agency/local authority. Often this is supposed to be at birthdays/Christmas but some families ask for other times of year to prevent disappointment.

    I'd like your password too - will try to email you.

  • At 11:57 AM, Blogger DrSpouse said…

    ok can't find your email! Mine is katieja at gmail dot com

  • At 10:09 PM, Anonymous Denise said…

    I've been reading for quite a time and would love the password to the Palace
    fossey55 at hotmail com


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