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Adopted 3 boys out of foster care, then got pregnant for my beautiful daughter, now currently pregnant again with twins.

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Stepping Aside...(Now updated)

Was suprisingly easier than I expected. I'll write as much as I can now, and try to finish on my lunch break today. I need to take a little time, because some of this post may become evidence in court. Here's a quick summary:

1. 6 1/2 hours at children's hospital in New Orleans. 12 hours from when we left the house, until we got home.

We arrived at noon and left at 6:15!! The 1:30 appointment didn't happen til after 2! For the cleft team appointments, it was scheduled at 2:30, we were taken to a room about 4, and saw the last of the 6 doctors/specialists at 6 pm!

2. 6 1/2 hours, L and I alone with bio mom. Social worker could not make it, but bio mom did.

Trusty OCS will always make sure mom has transportation to the doctor visits, however, us foster parents must provide our own! If you cannot get her own ride to the appointments, can she really properly care for him?

3. 4 surgeries, 3 major, one very minor.
1. cleft lip repair
2. cleft palette repair
3. hypospadia(sp?)--sorry everyone, you'll have to google it. I don't discuss baby N's privates here, mine maybe, but not his. It's urology related.
4. Tubes in ears

4. 7 doctors/specialists seen yesterday, 2 others we need to see or get reports from before surgery.
1. plastic surgeon
2. speech therapist
3. Audiologist
4. Ear, Nose, and Throat
5. Geneticist
6. Dentist
7. Urologist

The plastic surgeon is waiting for reports for his prior geneticist and cardiologist(for heart murmur). Surgeon will not operate if geneticist determines he has a genetic defect that will kill him in a couple of years, although this has been ruled out by his prior geneticist.

5. One very cranky baby, his mom and lots of baby equipment to lug around.

Can I blame baby N? Of course not, I was cranky too after that long day.

The bio mom, all I can say for now, is that we respected each other, and we let her be mommy and involved for the doctor visits. Social worker says not to be surprised if she accuses us of saying something we didn't.

6. 3-4 times circling St. Charles Ave. in New Orleans until we found the alley the hospital was on.
The street sign was only on one side of the road. The city is still fairly deserted..Oh wait, they were all at children's hospital!

7. 10,000 parenting tips from bio mom.

Baby oil for cradle cap
Bibs for drooling
He needs a pacifier
Baby N likes...
His sisters are like him because...
Do you have ___ at your house? I can bring it for you.

8. 100 reasons why social services took her boy and it wasn't her fault.

Lies, it's all lies they told about me!

Will finish updating later. Before you all freak out, bio mom behaved fairly well yesterday and seems to like us much more than the other foster mom.

Coming up, a placement call we almost received and whether or not we should pursue it?

I guess you all want to hear about the placement call? I teased you a little. We didn't get the call, baby N's former foster mom did, and refered our social worker to call us. She said she thought about it, knew we'd say yes, and didn't want us to be overwhelmed with baby N. She was placed with a family though. The placement:

A premie baby girl, straight out of the hospital!

At least now I know my chances are good of getting one from the hospital. I think that was God's way of telling us to wait.

We hope to have the first surgery scheduled in 4-6 weeks assuming the plastic surgeon gets the reports from the other doctors he needed.

Baby N's birth weight--4 lbs 9 oz
Baby N's weight now(7 mos) -- 18 lbs 8 oz

A big boy huh?

What next? I have something special I'd like to share, so if I've known you a while(on my blogroll or comment/email me often), send me an email...

I finally caught a picture of my baby N smiling!!! And with the cleft, it's a more adorable smile than a normal baby. You have to email me. I'm not smart enough to find most of your email addresses on your blogs.

Now, enough about me, time to caught up on my reading and commenting so ya'll don't think I desserted you.

Sorry to leave you hanging, but love the response I got from it. I had about 10 minutes to post, so I did a summary so I wouldn't forget anything, so I could fill ya'll in later.


  • At 6:34 AM, Blogger GLouise said…

    I can't wait to hear the bio mom's parenting tips!

    And can't wait to hear abt the other potential placement....


  • At 8:44 AM, Blogger Julie said…

    Okay- great marketing teaser!!! I think your in the wrong industry... :) sounds like a good day- how did bio get there?? et al...

  • At 8:44 AM, Blogger Kitkat said…

    No fair to leave us hanging like that! Parenting tips? Placement? No social worker? Surgeries? Come back and post soon!

    Glad the day was totally awful.

  • At 8:45 AM, Blogger Kitkat said…

    Oops. That should say glad the day wasn't totally awful.

  • At 9:14 AM, Blogger Just another Jenny said…

    Parenting tips, I can only imagine.

    You have the patience of an angel dealing with her without the social worker. I think I would have screamed!

  • At 11:29 AM, Blogger Julie said…

    Hello- it is after lunch.... :)

  • At 11:37 AM, Blogger Dream Mommy said…


    Check my post, it's updated.

    I had to take a late lunch!

  • At 12:38 PM, Blogger GLouise said…

    Thanks for the updates!


    When do you think Baby N's surgeries will take place? He has a lot ahead of him, but I am glad he will get the treatments he needs.

    Aww- a premie baby girl? Be still my beating heart.

    Oh... would love to see the new picture... email me at

  • At 2:07 PM, Blogger Kitkat said…

    At least you didn't take long with the updates. I'm such the impatient person it would have driven me nuts had we had to wait too long.

    Sounds like a long road ahead for babyN... but sure he and you will get through it just fine.

  • At 2:22 PM, Blogger Julie said…

    I googled- his poor privates- :( - boy he is going to be use to the hospital! He will be one tough cookie when he is through all this. Bless his pea pickin' heart! :(

  • At 7:05 PM, Blogger InDueTime said…

    I hope Baby N's appointments go well. I am keeping you all in my thoughts/prayers. Im sure you will do fine. Hugs.

  • At 9:17 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    My litle guy Elijah had the hypospadious (sp?) surgery done when he was abut 11 months old. If at all possible schedule it before he starts crawling. It was painul, but I'm glad for his sake that we got it done. Feel free to e-mail me with any questions at You probably don't know me well enough to send a picture. I've followed your story on the IF newsgroups, then more recently found your blog. Your in my prayers.
    -Carolyn M.

  • At 4:26 AM, Blogger Nique said…

    Hey Lisa that sounds like a full on day you had! Baby N sounds like he has a lot he has to go through and I really pray he gets to stay with you guys as he needs parents to support him through everything, parents like you and L!

  • At 3:34 PM, Blogger chris said…

    Oh, I'd love to see his picture.


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