The Worst things you can say

For all of you who know someone or have friends who are infertile, here is a list of things not to say and why they are hurtful for infertile friends to hear:

1. Be patient, it will happen--This is hard to hear when someone has been trying for several years. They will think, it's be 5 years, haven't I been patient enough. Another bad thing about this statement is that it may not happen.

2. Take a vacation and you'll show up pregnant--Again, this more than likely will not get us pregnant. Despite that fact, L and I do have an awesome vaction planned, because we need to "relax" and have some time together.

3. You can always adopt--This is one of the worst things you can tell people. Sure I'd like to adopt, but I don't have 20-30,000 dollars spare cash to pay childbirth expenses to a birthmom who may change her mind and keep the baby. Most of us probably don't want our life invaded by a homestudy either. We don't want to be investigated like we're criminals just to be able to have children.

And finally, don't EVER advise some to:

4. JUST RELAX--This is the absolute worst thing you can say. How the hell are you supposed to relax between charting, OPKs, fertility drugs that make you emotional, endless negative pg tests, and the phone calls from nurses starting with, "I'm sorry."

I know there's plenty more. Anyone else here any other ones? What's the worse ones you heard? I know I haven't heard them all.